Finding a Caregiver with Heart

An interview isn’t just about what looks good on paper.
You are looking for heart.

Some people are just there for the paycheck.
They won’t necessarily do harm, but they lack the intention to treat seniors with dignity.

You need someone who actually wants to be there.
They should understand the value of companionship.

A good caregiver knows that their presence is just as important as the tasks they perform.

There isn’t a single right way to interview.
But you want to see them prioritize the senior’s comfort.

I remember one candidate who stopped and asked which chair belonged to my mom before they even sat down.
That small moment showed they respected her space and her rules from the start.

You want a caregiver who tries to engage the senior in the conversation.
You don’t want someone who only talks to you while the senior sits there in silence.

Even if you love a resume, trust you parent’s gut.
If they don’t like the vibe, it won’t work long-term.

No amount of experience can make up for a personality clash.

Ask them: “Could you see yourself having a long chat with this person?”
If they say no, listen to them.

They are the ones living with the decision every day.
Trusting their judgment keeps them in the driver’s seat.

What was a small gesture a candidate made that show they were focused on your folks? Drop a comment below!

Up Next: Making Your Parent the “Host” (Part 3) — The first caregiver shift: Building respect and connection.
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